I need advice for a friend :\

Dokter Bob · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 1:40 pm

She's very upset about things and is cutting her wrists.

She's hinted at doing worse things, which scare me, to be honest.
I've tried helping her by talking to her about all of the good things that have happened to her, like how many of friends she has that love and care about her. Me trying to help her just made things worse. She was cutting her wrists while talking to her.
I care about her, but I don't know how to say it without her insulting me. I feel helpless.

I don't know what to do, guys.

Adbot · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 1:40 pm

CreepyPirate · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 1:42 pm

Punch her in the nose.

I joke, go tell an adult you can't do anymore.

666midnight · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 1:49 pm

You need to get her to see a counselor to be honest, anyone who cuts their wrists on webcam is doing it for attention and for people to fell sorry for her, if she really wanted to cut her wrists properly she's be dead by now, sorry but that's the harsh reality of it.

She needs to stop seeking attention and trying to get people to suck up to her and feel sorry for her. I don't mean to be harsh but it's the truth from where I'm sitting, I've had past experience with it from an ex-girlfriend, she used to cut herself sometimes and one day I just turned round to her and said, stop cutting or I'll leave you for good and never talk to you again, it worked but you have to be harsh and don't fall into their little emotional pit.

Get her Counseling asap and get her to grow up and sort her life out. She has lots to look forward to and if she stepped back and looked at the lives of some others maybe she'd realize she's not got it so bad compared to others.

Killjoy · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 1:49 pm

CreepyPirate wrote:

Punch her in the nose.

I joke, go tell an adult you can't do anymore.

Yea i agree. She might be addicted. Might need help (exp: detox)

Shreder · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 1:50 pm

the first thing you do is report it.
i had a friend that tried to hang* herself, then another friend called the cops.
she was taken to rehab and put on medication*.
3 days later she was out, and as long as she takes her meds shes fine.

so tell her parents or an adult.
if she hates u fine. but u fixed the rest of her life.

Edit: the * were words i misspelled and corrected.

jointntoday · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 1:55 pm

if she really wanted to kill her self, she'd turn off the webcam and do it. not make a show out of it. i don't mean to sound rude but she's doing it so people be nice to her and give her the attention she craves. tell a adult.

my sister used to do the same thing, we gave her attetion so she did it more...then we ignored it and she stopped.
ignoreing it might not be the best thing to do but it worked for us lol.

its not as big of a deal as it seems...she'll grow out of it once she see's its not the cool thing to do...
if she was really going to kill her self...she'd of done it by now.

Adbot · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 1:55 pm

Killjoy · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 1:58 pm

Shreder wrote:

the first thing you do is report it.
i had a friend that tried to hang* herself, then another friend called the cops.
she was taken to rehab and put on medication*.
3 days later she was out, and as long as she takes her meds shes fine.

so tell her parents or an adult.
if she hates u fine. but u fixed the rest of her life.

Edit: the * were words i misspelled and corrected.

I agree. Even if she hated you i whouldnt be able to sleep at night knowing that i could have saved some ones life

Dokter Bob · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 2:06 pm

I agree, Killjoy.

I'd hate for something that major to be on my conscious and know that I contributed to it.

Al3X · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 2:28 pm

You need to get her some help.

The first thing to do is tell her parents, they'll be able to make a major intervention the fastest, and will be able to make the best decision for her well being.

On the other hand, she may just want attention, or not want to admit something but be trying to hint at it.

The third logical thing I can think of, is if she takes medicines it may be causing it. I know various medicines can give side effects such as suicidal thoughts.

Marking22 · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 5:50 pm

tell dr.phil he solves all those problems and you might even get on the show
or just tell her mom/dad

Marco · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 6:02 pm

Definitely get her help, outside of your ring of friends, preferably a professional. You could tell her nice things, like good things that happened to her, but people who are in that state will link it to something bad. My dad sees a lot of people like that, being a therapist. And he helps nearly everyone of them, others have to be sent places. If she hasn't gone completely"crazy" (for lack of a better word), as in she hasn't hurt herself further, she still has a chance with a professional. Don't say a word to people at school. Or teachers. Seek help outside of a school. Schools get the cops involved. And that doesn't help.

jointntoday · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 6:34 pm

Marco wrote:

Don't say a word to people at school. Or teachers. Seek help outside of a school. Schools get the cops involved. And that doesn't help.

i agree, not only well the cops get involved..if word gets around she'll be made fun of...and that'll push her closer to the breaking point.

Tjbartz2009 · **Posted:** February 4th, 2009, 7:21 pm

Yah go with what pretty much everyone else is saying, thought she may not like you telling an adult that she is doing this to herself. She will thank you in the long run because YOU will be the one to safe her life before she takes it from herself. So do the right thing and be the good friend you are by saving her life.

Duke Juker · RSBandB Donor since 07/01/2010

Try finding an adult that she trusts and have her talk to that adult. If you can find someone she trusts, chances are that you will make good progress. There's not much else I can say other than all the other advice is good. I hope your friend comes alright out of all this. Good luck.

Kenny · **Posted:** February 5th, 2009, 10:36 am

One of my close friends used to cut his wrists a lot. Then his girlfriend killed herself and that nearly pushed him over the edge. I talked to him for a long time one night and it took me a long time to bring him round to the idea that killing himself was an easy way out. I just spoke to him about things like how much he would be missed, how much all his friends and family love him and stuff like that. I'm still not really sure if he is completely straight but he seems alright. He never broadcast himself cutting his wrists though, so I think this girl could be a bit of an attention seeker. Even so, she must have something wrong with her to make her self harm, publicaly or not. Talk it through with her and maybe your parents. I feel that I helped my friend a lot and when he started being normal(ish) again I felt like a great weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Come on MSN if you need a bit more of a chat.