"Problems"

Steven · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 2:07 pm

Recently, my girlfriens' mom has decided to hate me. Why? Because we were at MY HOUSE, at 11:39 PM at night, she got nto our house, and got her daughter ( My girlfriend ) because she found out that we watched a great movie, Braveheart, which now that I am editing this, to Creepy is not a historical movie.

If her mom wants to start a fight, should I break up with my current girlfriend? I really like her, I've even told her I love here, we've been dating for about a month and a half now so...

Break up with her because of her Mother or not?

Adbot · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 2:07 pm

MattVortex · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 2:32 pm

I never really saw the logic in breaking up with someone because of a member of their family. You're going out with the girl, not with the girl's family.

Your choice, though, I spose.

Unbirthday · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 2:36 pm

Love after a month? :shock:

Well I guess it depends on the people. . .
So her mom is mad over her daughter watching a movie, correct? Nothing else?

Don't break up with her over that, especially if you told her you love her.

Davo · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 2:46 pm

I would advise not breaking up over her mother. Forget what the parents think. I mean look at romeo and juliet! (oh wait they died)

haha jk jk bro.

but i wouldnt break up with her just because of her mom. doesnt sound logical.

Steven · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 4:00 pm

Just called her house, her mom is keepinjg her away from me... WTF.

CreepyPirate · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 4:38 pm

My ex-girlfriends mother hated me. ;D

Didn't split us up. You've only been seeing her a month n a half anyways, if you're thinking about leaving her over something so minor what else is going to do it? Either way, your choice.

p.s Please, PLEASE do not ever call braveheart historical. XD

edit: "i thought it was" I was sorta harsh, you was sorta correct in saying it is. It very..loosely follows it. It's a very one sided film. XD I just found it funny that's all.

Adbot · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 4:38 pm

Steven · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 4:41 pm

CreepyPirate wrote:

My ex-girlfriends mother hated me. ;D

Didn't split us up. You've only been seeing her a month n a half anyways, if you're thinking about leaving her over something so minor what else is going to do it? Either way, your choice.

p.s Please, PLEASE do not ever call braveheart historical. XD

I thought it was.. :S

Well thanks for the advice, and I think I'm gonna stay with her.

Don't close the topic, I want to see what other people will say.

Alex · **Posted:** January 20th, 2008, 5:42 pm

If my mother/father stopped me from seeing someone I liked, I would probably tell them to **** off and how they have no right to control my life.

However, I'm not sure about you because I don't know what kind of person you are in real life.

Mushroom Queen · **Posted:** January 21st, 2008, 2:10 am

Alright, let me play devil's advocate for you so that you can see her mum's side of the story. You're 13, right? Well, let me just assume that your girlfriend is the same or close to 13 then. Most mothers do not want their young daughters at ANY boy's house at that time of night, no matter if you were just watching a film or not. I agree that she should've perhaps phoned your house asking her to come home, but some parents are just more strict than others. But here are some questions that I have to ask you:

1. If you love your girlfriend, why do you want to break up with her because of her mother?
2. Did your girlfriend ask her mum's permission to stay at your house that late? If not, why didn't she?
3. Why do you feel that breaking up is the only choice?
4. You make it sound like she came to your house to get her daughter because you two were watching Braveheart. Was this because she thought the film was unsuitable for her to watch?

Either way, if you really really love this girl then you need to do what you can to either stay away from making her mum angry or find a way to make her mum not hate you. If you choose the second option, you should go talk to her and ask her what rules she wants you to follow. Most girls want their boyfriends to get on with their mums, even if they don't let you know that.

Basically, I can tell you what not to do. Do not lash out at her mother. Mothers can make it so that their daughter NEVER sees you again. Trust me. The only way out is avoidance or by making amends. It only makes things worse when you say rubbish like "I KAN SEE UR DAUGHTER IF WANT TO..FU!" It's also very immature.

Steven · **Posted:** January 21st, 2008, 2:31 am

Mushroom Queen wrote:

Alright, let me play devil's advocate for you so that you can see her mum's side of the story. You're 13, right? Well, let me just assume that your girlfriend is the same or close to 13 then. Most mothers do not want their young daughters at ANY boy's house at that time of night, no matter if you were just watching a film or not. I agree that she should've perhaps phoned your house asking her to come home, but some parents are just more strict than others. But here are some questions that I have to ask you:

1. If you love your girlfriend, why do you want to break up with her because of her mother?
2. Did your girlfriend ask her mum's permission to stay at your house that late? If not, why didn't she?
3. Why do you feel that breaking up is the only choice?
4. You make it sound like she came to your house to get her daughter because you two were watching Braveheart. Was this because she thought the film was unsuitable for her to watch?

Either way, if you really really love this girl then you need to do what you can to either stay away from making her mum angry or find a way to make her mum not hate you. If you choose the second option, you should go talk to her and ask her what rules she wants you to follow. Most girls want their boyfriends to get on with their mums, even if they don't let you know that.

Basically, I can tell you what not to do. Do not lash out at her mother. Mothers can make it so that their daughter NEVER sees you again. Trust me. The only way out is avoidance or by making amends. It only makes things worse when you say rubbish like "I KAN SEE UR DAUGHTER IF WANT TO..FU!" It's also very immature.

1. Her mother is more than I make her look. She's atwisted evil hag, she doesn't let me do anything with my Girlfriend at all. Even if she says it's okay one minute, the next she'll say no.

2. She asked her Mother's permission about 10 minutes before she came in the house.

3. Well if he Mother is whacho as she makes it look, I have no doubt in her making up some fake lie saying I "Raped her daughter" or something and getting me in jail.

4. Yes, I'm 13. My girlfriend 13 also, and no, her mother said it' fine for her to see the movie. Apperently her mother is like bipolar or something.

I've had several attepmts at making peace and not war, she declines every time with a smirk and a rude outbirst about how I'm probally "A little kid who needs a girl like her daughter to be popular" which I am already popular.

I've honestly had enough. I'm tired of her whacko Mother.

Matthew1987 · **Posted:** January 21st, 2008, 7:37 am

I wouldn't be having my teenage daughter with a teenage boy together in a room late at night.

Red Spear1 · **Posted:** January 21st, 2008, 9:17 am

Well, if you like her then what should it matter what people think?

My girlfriends parents were the same at the start, not to say they hated me, but more of ... Well I don't know. It could just be parental instinct. Just see how it goes and if it stops then it's all good. If it doesn't then you will have to re think the situation.

Ryan · **Posted:** January 21st, 2008, 11:28 am

Stevey, Stevey... My little child.

I know how much you like her. Heck your always mentioning her to me. One minute your like 'l0l u phale i gots 16 summoning@@' and the next your talking about what you do with your girlfriend. You even gave up me and Joshie for her (which is hard :O) so it obviously shows how dear she is to you. If your girl's mother is trying to get you to stop dating, do everything in your heart to fight back. I know how much you plea that you love Nicole, and I know her mother keeps ignoring you, but don't let that put you down. Breaking up over a peer isn't really sensible in the slightest.

P.S. check mah spoilah

Kyle · **Posted:** January 21st, 2008, 8:22 pm

Crazy mom equals crazy daughter down the road. Cut your loses and run for the hills.

Fanaticism · **Posted:** January 22nd, 2008, 12:32 pm

Lol its a stupid reason to break up... Walk up to her mother and say "What can I do to make you see that I'm not a bad influence on your daughter" if she gives you things try your best to do them... Because if you really "love" the girl which at 13 I dont think is exactly possible, You can go threw a little trouble to be with her