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Author:  Chi Meng [ December 13th, 2006, 6:59 pm ]
Post subject:  I need you guys' opinion..about my relationship
So, I have been dating my girlfriend Mary for a while now. I mean our relationship is fine, but somtimes I just think that she has TOO many guy friends. And I know she is really close to these guys. Sometimes i feel like she is closer to them then she is to me. I know she is a lot more open to them then she is to me. She isn't really that open to me, she doesn't really tell me how she is really feeling. But I know for a fact that she tells this other guy (just one). I always read thier little comments to each other and it seems as if they were boyfriend and girlfriend. It seems as if she would be happier with him then she is with me :(.

I don't really know what to think right now. Maybe im just thinking too much, and maybe they are JUST friends. But these thoughts always cross my mind. I dont know what do :(. It really stresses me out.
Author:  Adbot [ December 13th, 2006, 6:59 pm ]
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Author:  Tjbartz2009 [ December 13th, 2006, 7:05 pm ]
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It depends on how much time you spend with her and if it's everyday or not :?
Author:  Chi Meng [ December 13th, 2006, 7:11 pm ]
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Well she lives an hour away. The other guy lives on the other side of the country. I get to see her a few times a month. I try to see her as much as i can, but with gas prices so high, i cant.
Author:  The Haysta [ December 13th, 2006, 7:30 pm ]
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That depends on what you want from your relationship.

Ask her why she is more open to other guys than you. For all you know, it could be a misconception or you being paranoid/over protective.
Author:  coolbrow [ December 13th, 2006, 7:30 pm ]
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ooooh, long distance relashonship... never been in one... but form exerience i can tell you thats shes probably more open to him becasue hes her good freind. and nervous around you becasue her heart is beating really fast and she doesnt know what to say.
Author:  Robbie [ December 13th, 2006, 8:31 pm ]
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If she makes out with you, who cares?
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Author:  Brandt [ December 13th, 2006, 10:07 pm ]
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wow Robbie, the complete WRONG advice. Anyways I see a few possiblilites:

1. She likes this guy, but seeings as she cant really be with him easily she's with you
2. She likes you, and acts like that just cause

What do to:
1. Ask her for the truth on how she feels about you
2. Ask her the truth on how she feels about that other guy
3. Decide if its worth being with her if she has feelings for this guy
Author:  The Haysta [ December 14th, 2006, 2:03 am ]
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She could be doing it just to get more attention. More information would be suitable.
Author:  CreepyPirate [ December 14th, 2006, 5:13 am ]
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Wrong forum to ask on really, we have a bunch of idiots that are going to say stupid things, try to ignore them unless you want this locked.

You need to trust her for a start, i'm sure you have girls as friends if you're just friends with them, why couldn't she be the same?

As for being close, then get closer to her. Take an interest in her hobbys, interests. Open up to her, tell her how you're feeling..it can't be one way, if you want her to share her feelinsg with you then you should do the same back, even if it is a bad thing..hiding it away will only cause your relationship to break down.

Like most problems in relationships, it all comes down to talking to them, gotta have good communication skills with them. :P

Asking her if anythings going on with the other guy is only showing you don't trust her, have some faith in her and make an effort to be with her and do things she likes, make an effort to get to know her better.
Author:  Kyle [ December 14th, 2006, 5:16 am ]
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It depends on what you want, do you want a relationship? If you really like her tell her your feelings and how you doing like her hanging out with guys, if you dont really have strong feelings cut your loses while your still strong and can walk away.
Author:  - Tom - [ December 14th, 2006, 12:31 pm ]
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i was in the same situatuion, but i was the guy the girl was seeing. the other guy (e.g. you) was really paranoid. i dunno what i said but i somehow managed to figure it out, while completely wasted.

but if i were you id be a bit more laid back, nobody likes a paranoid and over protective guy :? just let it go. thats what id do.
Author:  Brandt [ December 14th, 2006, 5:14 pm ]
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CreepyPirate wrote:
Wrong forum to ask on really, we have a bunch of idiots that are going to say stupid things, try to ignore them unless you want this locked.

You need to trust her for a start, i'm sure you have girls as friends if you're just friends with them, why couldn't she be the same?

As for being close, then get closer to her. Take an interest in her hobbys, interests. Open up to her, tell her how you're feeling..it can't be one way, if you want her to share her feelinsg with you then you should do the same back, even if it is a bad thing..hiding it away will only cause your relationship to break down.

Like most problems in relationships, it all comes down to talking to them, gotta have good communication skills with them. :P

Asking her if anythings going on with the other guy is only showing you don't trust her, have some faith in her and make an effort to be with her and do things she likes, make an effort to get to know her better.


o.o creepy gave advice..and good advice...but yeah, i totally agree with creepy there :P. Just wait things out, talk with her, ect :)

PS. YOu never saw me say i agree with creepy lol
Author:  Snowfox [ December 14th, 2006, 6:23 pm ]
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Ohhh let me guess. You feel like she's cheating on you all the time, you worry about that at night sometimes. If you don't feel that way...sorry lol.

Anyway, that sounds exactly like my ex. Thing was she DID love me. I was worried because she would spend more time with her last ex than she would with me. I felt like she was constantly cheating on me. She wasn't. I worried so much I yelled at one of her friends that was doing things like hugging her randomly and then her parents called me and yelled at me cuz they said I was trying to control who she spends time with.

Thing is, some girls just know alot of guys, you can't control that. I suggest you grit your teeth and ride it out. Don't make the same mistake I did.

If you really want to, hold her closley, look her straight in the eyes, and ask her how much she loves you. You can almost tell if she does by the look in her eyes.

I hope this helped a little.
Author:  Chi Meng [ December 15th, 2006, 2:06 am ]
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Problem is, she's always telling me how much she loves me and all. I dont know what to do. I can't seem to believe her.
Author:  Snowfox [ December 15th, 2006, 1:39 pm ]
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Chi Meng wrote:
Problem is, she's always telling me how much she loves me and all. I dont know what to do. I can't seem to believe her.


Thats what happened with me. Don't make the same mistake I made. She loves you, don't worry about that. For all I know this could be a test too. I suggest you ride it out.
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